CREATING WINS

Creating frequent wins releases dopamine and feelings of reward which becomes irresistible. In turn you begin building confidence with each win, developing creative approaches to crush challenges, finding new limits to push past, and understanding how to attract and create opportune moments. 

• Block off one hour, 5 times a week for a 1 to 2 mile walk

• Challenge yourself at work

• Drink a certain amount of water daily 

• Get more sleep

• Help a friend succeed at something 

• Journal about 1 positive moment 3 times a week

• Make random challenges out of chores - Fold your laundry within 30 minutes

• Pick a subject that has always fascinated you. (Is it the Roman Empire?) Read, watch documentaries, find ways to immerse yourself in that culture or time. Write a 2 page summary or a 5-min presentation. 

• Take part of a challenge (5K run, film, poetry) 

• Tic-Toc challenges 

• Try new food

• Wear the stuff in your closet that you skip over

FALLING IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF

You know when you’re dating someone, and everything they do convinces you that they’re the one? A small gift is basically an engagement ring. Their problems are yours. And you automatically become their number one cheerleader. Have you ever considered it’s because you are teaching them how to love you back? Think about it. Hearing that your feelings are reciprocated is one of life’s biggest highs. But when you feel the other person pulling away, it diminishes any high you previously had. The only person who can give you that infinite high and validation is you. You are with you for life, broken or thriving. So why not make the longest relationship of your life the very best?

• Date yourself
• Book a massage
• Go to concerts 
• Treat yourself to a nice restaurant  

• Find your love language and shower yourself (Acts of service, compliments, gifts, etc)

• Get to know your likes and dislikes 

• Make over 
• Try a new haircut or color 
• Buy new clothes or pair them differently 

• Show up for yourself. 
• Got a job interview? Pre-set a notification to wish you luck

• Write a bio/ resume for all of your life accomplishments and one for future achievements. Be creative!
• Examples: 
• Burping the ABC’s 
• Can talk on the phone for hours without running out your social battery
• Gardener
• Gets out of bed everyday
• Hiked a tall mountain 
• Holding a baby on your hip while cooking and saving a toddler from poisoning themselves
• Quotes movies line for line

FREEING YOUR INNER CHILD 

Freeing your inner child breaks you out of the rigidness of normality for an uncomplicated life. It also sparks creativity, playfulness, and spontaneity. If you missed out on this sacred time in one’s life or feel like you don’t have an inner child to unleash, then create the moments you wished for. 

• Be random at will for the sake of joy 
• Be competitive with everything 
• Create low-stake bets (DISCLAIMER: I’m not pushing gambling or sky-diving)
• Dance
• Draw or paint
• Make a comic book 
• Race someone
• Sing your heart out 

• Buy the random “as advertised” toy you wanted 

• Do archery or play with a slingshot 

• Go go-kart racing 

• Let your child, niece/nephew lead your day (Be an innocent soul looking for adventure)

• Participate in an activity you loved as a child but haven't done in years. 
• Join others for athletics, book clubs, community theater, etc. 
• Play laser-tag
• Swimming

• Play dress up (Some call it cos-play)

• Read books

• Watch episodes of your favorite childhood shows or movies
  

HOLDING YOUR OWN HAND

Parents of newborns always get to the point of letting go to allow their babies to self-soothe. Even though we all get this training, as adults, we find ourselves looking for comfort from others in a variety of ways. Having support is amazing, however, if you can’t calm or reassure yourself, you will never have real self-confidence.   

• Breathing exercises

• Cleaning your home

• Creating something artistic 

• Empowering songs

• Exercising 

• Funny clips on social media

• Journaling (Great for venting and you can always use it to reflect later on!) 

• Lighting candles or incense 

• Listening to frequency healing music 

• Meditating 

• Repeating mantras or quotes

• Self-hugs

• Showers

• Sleeping with a body pillow or heated blanket 

• Sipping tea 

• Watching childhood favorites